“Can You Make My Daddy Stop Drinking?” This might have been the toughest question to handle emotionally for me in my whole life. It came out of the blue by phone from More »
Q: How long should I wait to start a relationship after getting clean and sober? A: Once you have a healthy relationship with yourself and with G-d, you are More »
I grew up in Chicago, one of six kids. My dad worked three jobs most of my childhood, and my mom dedicated her life to taking care of her family. She had anxiety disorders, and it seemed that she didn’t have time to think of herself. I don’t remember a whole lot of my childhood except I felt alone and different than the other kids.
The mystery of slips is not so deep as it may appear. While it does seem odd that an alcoholic, who has restored himself to a dignified place among his fellowmen and continues dry for years, should suddenly throw all his happiness overboard and find himself again in mortal peril of drowning in liquor, often the reason is simple.
Is Relapse Part of Recovery?
Addiction has been called a chronic relapsing disease. Relapse is when the person in recovery chooses to try some controlled using again after attempting to remain abstinent. We know that addicts/alcoholics can’t control substance use. If they could, they wouldn’t be in this situation in the first place. Relapse is one more failed attempt at trying to control how much they are able to use.
Do you ever find yourself thinking, “Life has taught me some tough lessons, and the scars do not heal easily.”? This article can help you learn valuable lessons from the past,
“Can You Make My Daddy Stop Drinking?”
This might have been the toughest question to handle emotionally for me in my whole life. It came out of the blue by phone from a then 12 year old son of a client I had been working with.
The simple answer was, “No, I can’t.”
Whether you have experienced a relapse or a new to Alcoholics Anonymous, you probably have some fear, doubt and shame associated with the past. We review a few simple questions about the role of a sponsor and present you with some ideas to help you move forward in recovery from alcoholism.
It is a matter of historical record that both of the two original AA cofounders had at one time belonged to an evangelical Christian movement known as the Oxford Group and were strongly influenced by many of its basic ideas.On the other hand,
Q: How long should I wait to start a relationship after getting clean and sober?
A: Once you have a healthy relationship with yourself and with G-d, you are ready for other relationships.
Sober Relationships: One Size Does Not Fit All
Those who have had advice from old timers in 12 step groups who have been working 12 steps of recovery are often told that they should not get in to “new” intimate relationships until they have been clean/sober for at least a year. Think about it, there is some logic behind this; but I don’t think there is a one size fits all answer.
In A.A., they say to wait at least a year before entering into a relationship, the idea being before you can love somebody else you must first learn how to love yourself.But what if loving yourself just isn’t possible? What if in order to love yourself you must first know that you can be loved?
The other day I was doing the “step twelve” lecture in my drug treatment facility and was pondering the “Having had a spiritual awakening” part of step twelve.
What is that spiritual awakening that it is talking about?How do you get it?
What happens when you do?
What does it look like?